Behind every great king is a great mother — King Lemuel’s mother taught him what to look for in a woman so that he would marry a woman of excellence. If you are a mother, you are in a powerful position – to teach your children the Word of God and to make sure that they receive wise instruction so that they, too, grow up and make good life decisions. In today’s society, many mothers feel that they are powerless against rebellious children, but this is not the case if you are willing to fight (it is a spiritual battle) for your children’s souls, lead them to Christ, and guard them and keep them in His way. King Lemuel learned from his mother advice for marrying a woman for life.
Proverbs 31:10-11 says, “An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain.”
If you are a woman who devotes herself to the things of God and in pleasing your husband, surely you are an excellent wife. This should build your self-esteem. The world tries to trample your self-esteem, the world tries to convince you that you aren’t a good mother, that you have somehow failed either your children or your husband, the world tries to pour all sorts of self-defeating thoughts into your mind. Do not listen to the wiles of the enemy, listen only to the Holy Spirit who can give you guidance and comfort and counsel.
An excellent wife is a Christian wife who prays for her family, prays for her husband, who “does him good and not evil all the days of her life” (Proverbs 31:12). An excellent wife is a Christian woman who obeys God and not man and who seeks to love her neighbors, act generously, and speak honorably of her husband.
Excellent wives, excellent women of God, your worth is far above jewels. Hear that – let it sink in deep into your heart. You are worth something. You aren’t without value, in fact, God in His very precious Word has said you are worth more than that diamond ring that is on your finger.
There are some women who look at their wedding ring and twirl it around sometimes thinking that they do not deserve it or that they are not good enough for their husbands. Stop that thinking right now! Put that behind you, because those self-degrading thoughts lead to depression and sadness, which are not of the Lord Jesus. Certainly, not every woman has a beautiful diamond wedding ring, and that’s also important – you don’t need one in order to be a Godly woman or in order to be loved. Some churches teach that diamonds are so worldly that we don’t need them. I respect that viewpoint, because surely love is greater than a diamond ring and our worth as women is far above jewels…but I think its a good sign of commitment especially in today’s divorce-stricken world to have a reminder on your finger every day of to whom you have made vows! The important thing is, you are worth more than anything you own, anything anybody owns, your life is valuable and worth living. Your life is precious to our Father in heaven, and even if you have been an excellent wife but maybe your husband doesn’t even recognize it, your reward is with God, and He knows you are worth more to Him than the most precious jewel.
The excellent wife is brilliant in His sight. Remember Proverbs 31:30, it is a good one to memorize, sisters – “Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.”
Praise God for you virtuous women of God. Be encouraged in your walk with the Lord. What you do will be rewarded, it is not in vain, and you are loved by so many more people than you even realize.